Something I hear from my wife tell me on a constant basis it seems. At times, I can honestly say all over the place. Not because I don’t want to be present but because I don’t take the time for myself to be present. With so much going on in the world right now; health, family, kids school plan, work, bills, uncertainty, oh yah a pandemic to boot. it’s a battle to keep your mind from focusing on what matters, and that is YOURSELF! For most of us it’s easy to do put more on our plate and feel we are indestructible.
We act like the job won’t get done unless we do it ourselves or none can do it better than you, leading more responsibilities we know we shouldn’t take on. Which results to more stress, absent mindedness, short temper, not enjoying the moment, and your friends and family not wanting to be around you. Is it worth it?
What we should be putting on our plate are less tasks (decrease your stress) and more time to build a stronger and better mindset. Particularly during these times when many aspects of our lives is uncertain. Now is the time to enjoy the little moments of life: quality time with family and friends, staying healthy, and empowering ourselves. But you’re asking yourself, “How can I get there?” First thing first, decide you are going to try to change and do something to that change. Second, choose something you like to do but haven’t for some time. Here are some Examples; meditation, reading, spiritual grounding, exercise, and quality time. All these have to do with disconnecting from Social Media and your phone.
- Try closing your eyes for 5 minutes and think of nothing (harder than you think, but when you get the hang of it, it is quite relaxing.
- Transcendental Meditation (highly recommended) look it up
Reading: educates you and helps flex the most important muscle in your body, your brain.
- Mindset by Carol Dweck
- It Takes What It Takes by Trevor Moawad
Both of these books can help create better habits for you.
- Find a church and religion that speaks to you
- Read the Bible
- Walking, running, sports, CrossFit, playing with your kids. It doesn’t have to be fast and it will increase endorphins that help brain function.
- Watch less television (gives you time for the above choices)
- Converse more with your family members (connect with who matters in your life)
We always talk about quality food and physical activity to stay healthy at Turnbull but it also takes more than that to maintain your fitness. Your mindset is the first place to start. The more you connect with yourself, the more you realize what you need to live without. But you, we, and I need to learn to let go of what we think is important and realize what is actually important and nourish that. There is a difference and I hope this helps you find it. Quality over quantity should be the new phrase to live by.